Friendship

At each stage in our life we meet different kinds of people. Some are funny, some teach us lessons in life while others occupy a special space in out heart. At every stage of our life, the one thing in common for each of us is a best friend. In our childhood days, the term best friend might have meant the person who was always by your side, whether it be in class or in the dining hall. But as we grow older our definition of a best friend changes. People in our life come and go, but some people stay. Senior Jenny Huynh, a best friend is a person who loves you for who you are and helps you become who you should be.

“Some people arrive and make such a beautiful impact on your life, you can barely remember what life was like without them,” Huynh said.

True friends are those who will never desert you in times when you need them the most. They are the people who bring a smile on you face whenever you think of them. They are the people you first remember during your happiest and difficult times. Sophomore Sarah Ford believes that they are always there for you and love you when you forget to love yourself.

“To me friendship is having someone in your life that you can depend on for anything,” Ford said.

The benefits of having close friends may be stronger the older you get because, by that point, those friendships have stood the test of time. For sophomore Kara Baker, this statement could not be more true.

“You have kept those people around because they have made you happy, or at least contributed to your well being in some way,” Baker said. “Throughout our lives, we let the more superficial friendships fade, and were left with the really influential ones.”

Friendships are unique relationships because unlike family relationships, people choose to enter in to them. The voluntary nature of friendship is subject to life’s whims in a way more formal relationships aren’t. In adulthood, as people grow up and go away, friendships are the ones most likely to take a hit. You’re stuck with your family, and you’ll prioritize your spouse, but where once you could run over to your friends house at a moments notice and see if he could come out to play, now you have to ask your friends if they have have a couple hours to get lunch in two weeks. The beautiful, special thing about friendship, that friends are friends because they want to be, they choose each other. But as life accelerates, people’s priorities and responsibilities begin to shift, and friendships are affected, for better, or often, sadly, for worse.

“Friendship is a two way street and for it to work you have to be able to meet each other halfway,” Ford said.